D@nC!nG R@Bb!+

苗，要让它自己慢慢成长
拔苗助长，只会有反效果
阳光、水份、空气和养分
一样也不能少

感情就像一棵幼苗
要小心照顾
需要时间需要爱心
缺乏任何一样
苗不会长大
感情也不会长久

（于060406）

所有东西都有保证期吗？这包括爱情吗？

当一对情侣在一起太久了，当初的火花是不是慢慢地在灭了呢？
还是那个火花早在N年前已经灭啦？
不再期待下一次的见面，说再见时不再希望下一次的约会。
难道这就是他们所谓的冷淡期了吗？
双方已经看不到对方的优点，反而缺点一一地呈现在眼前，
还要是用放大镜将那些过失和缺点细数。
时间会让爱情褪色（我觉得是视个案而定的吧~）。
可惜，爱情不能用白丽护色，不让它不褪色的。
也许，有的爱情就像酒那样，不会变质。
反而，越久越香醇，越久越有味道。

相爱的两个人到底怎会分开？是因为误会？还是因为爱得不够深，不够信任对方，有了误解才分开？
如果两人爱得够深，基础很好，互相信任，何来误解？
因为缺乏信任，容易被别人影响，他人才有机会乘虚而入。

戏里的戏码通常都是这样的。男/女主角因为别人的一两句话，或看见他或她和别人走在一起就误会了，再来就是闹个你死我活的，两人因此而分开，大概就是这样了。

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如果两人的感情不是建立在信任上，这样的感情能长久吗？
无论眼见什么，听见什么，都应该向他问个清楚吗？
还是只把疑团藏在心里，直到心再也承担不了才来火山爆发吗？
人，真是个复杂的生物。太难了解了。

有些事情，不说不说，全收在肚子里头，没有人知道你到底要些什么。可是，说出来了，又会有结果吗？结果是你想要的吗？若不是，我又何必将它们说出来，让你不好过，我也跟着难过？

有人说，爱他就要说出来。爱一个人，不是那么难说出口。可是，当你忐忑不安，不知道他是否对你也有感觉，那种坐立不安的感觉，你又明白吗？给自己一个期限，莫无限期地等待。曾经，我也是等待的一个人，直到我知道我的等待不会有回应，我不要再做等待的那个人。等待的心情，一点也不好受。尤其是，你等待的那个人，不会被你等到。或许，他还懵懵懂懂的，不知道有个人在等他。或许，他知道，而不在乎你的等待。等不到的，那种失望你知道多少？看似有情，其实他对你根本就是无情。你的等待，他不会感动，不会心疼。

这种等待，统称是暗恋。

讨厌等待，一点也不喜欢这种无限期的等待。
为什么要去期待一个不会回头看你一眼的人?
讨厌等待，那种让人心痛不安的心情你懂吗？
别再等待，别再盼望，别再期许，别再失望。

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好久以前写的，一直没有将它post上....现在回头看看当时的心情，自己为啥等得那么辛苦。知道等人的滋味不好过。不知道对方到底有意还是无意的，又不好意思直接开门见山地问对方。如果对方根本是流水无情的，情何以堪嘛~现在，再想起来，自己当时还真是傻。等到那么难过，何苦？不愿再做一个等待的人。

有人问，你怎么知道你喜欢他？
喜欢不喜欢，是很抽象的事情不是吗？
喜欢他的搞笑？还是喜欢他的温柔和细腻？
无论理由是什么，喜欢很多时候解释不了。

Usually, people will judge others based on their perceptions, their rules and their interpretations. What they are told to be or do, they will somehow apply that on others. If others are doing different kinda of things, then they see these others as weird, incorrect or misbehaved. You cant just simply ask others to follow whatever rules you see fit. Some of the rules not applicable here and there. These rules might be just fit to be apply in certain circumstances.

In a relationship, you are receiving and at the same time you're giving out things. It's a 2-way relationship(as there's not free lunch in this world). However, if someone ask more than you can give?

Others said when you start a relationship, it should be sweet and happy.
But, now you start to feel the exceptionally high expectations from the other party and hardly can taste the sweetness of the relationship...Do u think this is the price of it? Cant expect everyday it will be sweet....there's up and down in a relationship, right? (By the way....eat too much sweet can get diabetis...)
He did sometimes asking too much from her and she's still not ready to be totally committed to it. Give her some spaces to breath..Stop asking so much from her. TIme is needed to change or to adopt.Dun u agree that?

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Stop saying she's wasting ur time.
Sometimes some unintended words do really hurt.
Do u mean that if she's not willing to "change" on daily habits, you are jz gonna ask her leave for good?
Do u mean it's so wrong to start a relationship wif her as she's not the actual CANDIDATE you r looking for?
Do u mean starting a relationship wif her it's just the lousiest investment you have done in ur life?

Ya...Investment....you're not wrong. Education can be an investment. Relationship also counted as an investment. What do you think of that? Coz relationship need ppl to invest time, money, feelings?? Cant deny that anyhow. But do you need to keep reminding she's jz one of ur investment?

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Start to worry on sth that should worry only after marry....
Hei buddy, I'm still single here and not yet marry yet....Y cant I have some happy single life? Do I need to start worrying how much diapers my so-called future kids should be using? Should I start to worry what kind of damn food they r going to have? Oh please, give me a break....It's not time to worry so much on this kind of things....cant u be more patient or more considerate....to concentrate on current situation rather than those future long time away things? True...one should hav planning and preparations for the future...But dun u think it's too early to ask for these kinda of things?

有谁是不能被取代的？常常看到报章里，无论是政治人物或是明星歌星的，都是可以被其他人所取代。后浪推前浪，不是吗？

如今，在公司里，能取代我的位置的人，不胜其数。所以，只要我能有一些特长或特别的能干，老板少了我不能活下去的时候，我才是独一无二的，无法被取代的。可是，你又怎能确保将来能代替你的人不会出现？只有不断的为自己增值，一直保持最佳状态，才不会被他人所淘汰。这样，会不会天天在提心吊胆的？这样会不会好累？

在男女之间，谁又能取代谁呢？只要是看起来像贤妻良母的和会煮饭的，都是你的选择吗？
看来，能取而代之的，有一箩那么多的的女性。符合这些条件的，有那么多人。是不是当你遇见条件更好的，你就舍旧取新的呢？还是，你只会不断埋怨、恨铁不成钢啊？（哈哈~恨铁不成钢不是用在这里吧∶p）

没有人喜欢自己能轻易地被别人取代。
不需要是唯一，只希望自己的存在是有特别的意义。

No body cant be replaced by others. Everyone can have someone else to substitute ur places, no matter you r a superstars or politicians. Sooner or later, they will be replaced by some younger people.

Currently, my position in the company...can be replaced by anyone...as long as he/she got brain, hands n legs. Unless, I'm so outstanding n brilliant. And, my boss cant live without me(which is quite impossible here). Somehow, the not-replaceable days wont b long as ppl keep improving their skills. Who knows, someday they can easily replace ur place in a finger snap. Only if you continuously upgrading urself, improving ownself etc...but then, wont tat be tiring? Wont you be worring all times....

Between one couple...do you think he/she can be replaced easily? If she jz happened to be matched ur requirements, would she be picked coz these reasons? If she jz someone from hundreds, who jz so coincidently matched your rules n regulations, will you jz take her as ur spouse/partner? Do you mean that you can simply find someone as long as their fulfil ur so-called requirements? Is tat meant that when you find someone who can fit ur requirements as compare to existing one, then you will turn to her without any hesitation? Or you will keep on complain on his/her weaknesses?

No one would like to be replaced by others.
I do not wish I am the one and only one, but just wish that I am someone special to you...not tat easy to be replaced by others.

爱，可以很简单，也可以很复杂。
简简单单的爱，可以令人回味。
平平淡淡的爱，也是一种幸福。
轰轰烈烈的爱，又能维持多久？
有时，爱得越深，伤得也越深。
是不是把心锁好，就不怕伤害？
可是，
心，在不知不觉中被爱偷走。
心，在不知不觉中想念着他。
期待每一次和他相见的日子，
期待有他陪伴左右的每一天。

WHen you love someone, dun u wanna to let him/her know?
WHen you love someone, dun u wanna always b with him/her?
When you love someone, dun u wanna hear her voice see his/her face?
When you love someone, dun u feel lonely when he/she's not around?

It's sometimes hard to say good bye to someone u like...
You will start to miss him/her even he/she's jz gone one second ago...
Although u keep telling urself...you will able to see him/her again next time...
When you r with him/her, the time passes so quicly...without even knowing it's already time to say good bye~
If you love him/her, would you ever tell her/him?
If you nv tell her/him, would he/she ever know?
Dun say she/he can feel it...
Sometimes, if you dun say, she/he wont know.
Sometimes, it makes a different if you tell her/him directly how u feel about her/him.
Sometimes, it does mean a lot to her/him if you say it out.

Ya...u hav ur choice to keep it a secret...and I mean to keep it forever to urself.
Coz if u dun tell, u wont hav a second chance....
coz if u dun tell, she/he will not stop there forever to wait for u to tell her/him tat.
Opportunity dun always knock ur door...
Get it or miss it...tat's all~

Sometimes, I was wondering if there's any perfect match in this world.
Do you think someone who's really a perfect one for you?
Or do u think each person odds to hav the perfect the other half?

I guess, this is just a myth...it does not really happen in real life.
The perfect match does not exist in this world.
You need to take both his strengths and weaknesses.
Whether you accept it or not...these are the facts to be accepted.

How do you know tat person is jz the right one?
There's no answer...at least, no certain answer...
It's such a subjective question.
The answer is how your heart is going to answer.
Your heart will tell you....is he the right one.
But sometimes, your brain does not agree with wat ur heart said...
What r u going to do when there's dispute between ur heart and brain?
Listen to ur heart? Or jz follow wat ur mind told u?
Hard to make a decision...isnt it?